Fear in horseback riding is completely natural, whether it comes from a bad experience, a lack of confidence, or just the unpredictability of working with a large animal. The key to overcoming fear is consistency, patience, and small wins. Here are some of my practical tips to help build confidence in the saddle while improving riding skills.
1. Start Small
If fear is holding you back, don’t push yourself too hard too soon. Set small, achievable goals for each ride. For example, if cantering makes you nervous, work on trotting with control and confidence first. Sometimes. I wait a long while before going into a canter after not riding for a bit. No one needs to be getting hurt!
2. Focus Breathing
Fear can cause tension, which your horse will pick up on. Before and during your ride, take deep, slow breaths. A simple trick is to inhale for four counts, hold for two, and exhale for six. This helps you stay calm and keep your body relaxed. A method I use often and will ask my own daughters to do when I can see they are tense.
3. Ride with a Plan
Going into a ride with a clear plan prevents hesitation and gives you a sense of purpose. Instead of just "going for a ride," plan specific exercises to work on balance, control, and communication with your horse. Although, "going for a ride" isn't always a bag plan! Remember, being intentional is great, but relaxing is amazing too.
Simple Riding Schedule (2-3 Days a Week)
Day 1: Confidence & Relaxation
Goal: Get comfortable and relaxed in the saddle.
Exercises:
Start with groundwork (lunging or leading) to build trust.
Ride at a walk, focusing on deep breathing and posture.
Practice stopping and starting with light cues.
If comfortable, work on a controlled trot in a straight line.
Day 2: Balance & Control
Goal: Improve balance and independent seat.
Exercises:
Ride without stirrups at a walk and trot (if comfortable).
Practice two-point position for a few minutes to strengthen your legs.
Ride transitions (walk to trot, trot to walk) to improve communication.
Day 3: Building Courage with Simple Challenges
Goal: Push yourself just outside your comfort zone.
Exercises:
Ride over ground poles to encourage focus and precision.
Do a short trail ride or ride in an open area to gain confidence.
Introduce small circles and figure-eights to improve control.
Try a slow canter if you're ready, even for just a few strides.
Final Thoughts
Fear doesn’t disappear overnight, but steady, consistent progress will build your confidence. Trust yourself, trust your horse, and celebrate small victories. Over time, those small steps will turn into big accomplishments! Since my accident about 4 years ago, this has been the route I have taken. This last year was when I really stepped away from fear, embracing the blessing of owning horses.
Do you struggle with fear in the saddle?
Let me know in the comments how you’re working through it!
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